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Revolutionizing Real Estate with NLP: Unlocking the Power of Natural Language Processing


If you’re a real estate professional and active lead prospector, your focus is always zeroed in on getting the “yes.” It could be “yes, I’m willing to continue this conversation,” or “yes, I’m open to hearing how you might sell my home,” to “yes, I’ll sign a listing contract with you.” 

Of course, if it was easy to always get a yes, everybody would be selling real estate and making lots of money. The truth is, a yes does not come easy. This is particularly true for those agents who don’t actively plan to get the yes in advance of a conversation with a prospect.

Many top performers in our industry rely on the principles of neural-linguistic programming (NLP) as the foundation for their prospecting efforts. 

As an essential tool of the modern professional, NLP real estate strategies can greatly enhance how you will approach potential leads and secure that all-important ‘yes’.

Taking advantage of the proven strategies of real estate NLP, you can dramatically improve your communication effectiveness.

Developed in the 1970s, NLP is the process by which we use the language of the mind to achieve desired objectives and outcomes on a consistent basis. The methods of NLP real estate pros employ are often subtle and seemingly natural integration into the conversation, but can profoundly impact the results of their prospecting. Some have referred to NLP as the “study of human excellence.” In essence, NLP is about modifying the thinking process of another person at a deep, unconscious level.

Incorporating NLP magic words, real estate advertising can effectively capture the attention of those new in the market, increasing your chances of initiating a successful conversation.

Body language and facial movements can tell us a lot about how a person feels about themselves and how they might be reacting to something you’ve said or done. On a simplistic level, you can learn the following by studying someone’s eyes:

  • Eyes upward, focused ahead means they respond mostly to visual cues
  • Eyes looking down, suggest that emotions are important
  • Eyes looking any other way (i.e. back and forth) indicate that auditory cues are important.

In general, working with NLP can help you become more outcome-focused, more observant of life around you, more flexible and more effective at building trust and rapport.


It’s possible that you aren’t a student of the science of NLP. But, if you use real estate scripts, such as those provided through the VULCAN 7, you are, in effect, putting one of the key principles of NLP to work, and that is: framing.

Successful professionals often attribute their positive negotiation outcomes to NLP training for real estate. In mastering the art of NLP, real estate professionals can turn seemingly challenging situations into opportunities, directing conversations toward successful business outcomes.

One of the biggest challenges for any real estate professional is to effectively guide every conversation with a prospect toward YES. That’s because we often lead with no-leaning statements or questions, that naturally give the prospect a way out of the conversation.

Anybody who has been selling for a reasonable amount of time has, likely, at one time or another, fallen into these negative, conversation-opening traps:

  • “You’re probably not ready to move.” Why would you focus on the outcome you don’t want, instead of the one you do want? Moreover, you have no idea whether or not they are ready to move.
  • “I know you’re sick and tired of hearing from agents…” Yes, indeed, they might be. Or, your call (especially if you begin prospecting early in the morning) might be the first call they get that day. So, the only way they’re going to be sick of hearing from you is if you plant the idea in their head.
  • “I’m sorry to bug you.” Why would you apologize for something you can only assume? If your sales mindset is to provide a valuable service, that’s far from bugging someone.
  • “I know you’re not going to like to hear this…” This statement might rear its head if you’re helping to set the listing price or doing negotiations. By leading with this statement, you’ve all-but guaranteed that they aren’t going to be happy with what you tell them.

There are numerous other examples, but these might be the biggest culprits when it comes to poor, negative-leading conversation starters.


If you’re able to stay away from the negative-leaning traps above, you’re off to a good start.

But, what if the prospect leads with a negative statement: “What is it with you people? I’ve already had a dozen calls this morning.”

It’s through the effective use of NLP, real estate-focused conversations can become not just about selling property, but about understanding the client’s needs and aspirations, thereby making the path to ‘yes’ smoother and more straightforward.

If they say something negative, that gives you the opening to:

  • Repeat: “I hear that you’re getting a lot of calls from other agents?”
  • Affirm: “I can understand that you might be feeling a little overwhelmed by all those calls.”
  • Reframe (assuming this is with an Expired): “Let me ask, had you been able to sell your home, where would you have moved?” Once you’ve learned where they are planning to move next, you are set for the logical follow-up: “If I could help you sell your current place and get you to (city) by June, would you be interested?”

Knowing how to use NLP in real estate sales not only helps you provide better services for your clients but through language processing, you can also guide conversations toward productive ends. So, gather your team and work on your scripts. 

After all, it’s all about the YES!

Doug Spak Author

Doug Spak has over four decades of experience as an advertising copywriter, agency creative director, blogger, and content creator. He joined Vulcan7 as a Content Specialist in 2016. In addition to ongoing website copy refreshes, Doug has produced over 300 blog posts while developing content for Vulcan7’s social media platforms.

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